Addendum to: Deep Vulnerability

A few words about forgiveness.

First: A definition of forgiveness: Giving up the right to resent.

Second: Forgive yourself for everything you did to yourself, and for what you were being that kept you from being all you can be. Then forgive yourself for not forgiving, for holding on. From there, give up the right to resent someone else for whatever they did, did not do, were or were not.

Will you ruin your life by refusing to give up the right to resent, forgive? Just let go of it. It can be done, and this does not mean condoning anything. Simply let go of what you are holding onto. You don't need it to survive.

Not forgiving will have your spiritual knickers in twist, and refusing to let go will tie them in a knot.

I once heard Pir Vilayat Kahn say that he learned something about forgiveness when he invited the Nazi who tortured his sister to death in for afternoon tea.

It really is okay to let go and be open, soft, kind and honest.

Peace and love....